Hurry Up!.......And WAIT!

Hurry up and WAIT.....Hurry up and WAIT!!!......Where the heck is my MATE?!?!?! This seems to be the life story of so many Singles today. We've all heard the advice, seen the blogs, read the books. Everybody seems to have a MAGIC formula to rescue us from this DEATH SENTENCE called Singleness. There seem to be thousands of formulas, recipes, and algorithms for how to master this place of solitude and WIN the GAME with MARRIAGE as the ultimate prize!

Not only do I strongly disagree with MOST of the advice out there, but I have a serious issue with the idea that being single is an INFERIOR position in life! No, I am not anti-marriage! On the contrary, I am a huge supporter of it. However, I strongly believe that the demise of marriage in this country is largely due BOTH to the pressure placed on singles to enter into this sacred union, AND our culture's view (especially in the south) that a person cannot reach true fulfillment or happiness unless they've committed their lives to another person! It sends single people, like me,  into this time-ticking frenzy in order to show the world, we've reached a place of maturity, overcome obstacles, and achieved the ultimate success. How do singles, migrate through this maze of confusion, depression, despair, and unrealistic expectations.........we hurry up and WAIT!  We rush to implement the latest advice we've read, knowing that this will be THE THING to cause our KNIGHT  in shining armor or the WOMAN of our dreams running to sweep us off of our feet! Or we hurry to jump into the next relationship, or the bed of the next person KNOWING that this is "the one" we've always wanted.....and then we WAIT. The implementation of the advice doesn't work, or at least doesn't seem to work; we soon find out that he or she is NOT THE ONE and the cycle continues! We become disappointed once again, feeling as though we've wasted time and energy expecting something that may never happen. This place of loneliness feeds our pity parties until the NEXT BIG THING that we are certain will rescue us from our pathetic, melancholy lives of boredom and sadness. And once again we are off to HURRY UP and WAIT!

I challenge you, as I've challenged myself to refuse to HURRY UP and WAIT, and to instead adopt a lifestyle of WAITING! Not waiting in the sense of sitting around, twiddling our thumbs, eager for the next Joe Bob to show up so that we can load him down with our baggage, problems, life's disappointments and regrets, but rather waiting as in -to wait, -to serve, -to work towards our life's purpose. We are responsible for our own life's happiness! Once we figure out why the heck we are here, what in the world we're supposed to be doing, and HURRY to do THAT........we wont be waiting for long! Even if we are, SO WHAT! We'll be so fulfilled with life, the beauty of finally living it, and enjoying all that it offers........that the grass will finally be GREEN on OUR side and people will be wanting to jump the fence to BE US, not the other way around.

Won' you WAIT with me????