If you haven't been watching "Married At First Sight" the new social experiment that airs on the FYI network each Tuesday night at 9pmEST.......then WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING?!?!?! This captivating show features three unique male/female couples who've agreed to get married to perfect strangers, stay married for four weeks, and then decide at the end of the one month period if they'd like to continue the marriage relationship with their newly found ideal mate. Each couple was chosen from a pool of over 1000 applicants in the NYC area. Each applicant was sent through a gruel-some process of tests, survey, questionnaires and interviews conducted by a panel of 4 experts, including a spiritual adviser, a sexologist, a psychologist, and a sociologist.
Last week, we watched these couples tie the knot and LAST NIGHT we got a glimpse into "THE BIG WEDDING NIGHT." Interestingly enough, of the three couples only one actually HAD SEX the night of their marriage. In essence, by doing-the-do, that couple was having sex with someone they'd only met earlier that day. Did the fact that they were legally married change the ramifications of such reckless behavior??.................
Apparently not!!! The show's sexologist even went on explain that physical intimacy is the most shallow form of intimacy that exists. Taking part in this intimacy too soon robs the pair of the opportunity to develop true emotional intimacy, which takes much more time. She expounded on the fact that emotional intimacy is one built on a bond, trust, and takes vulnerability from each party. Whereas physical intimacy is just that....sharing your body with someone else. And we got to see first hand, the seemingly detrimental consequences of making this surface-based choice.
The couple who decided to go all the way...numbed by drinking themselves into a drunken state, nonetheless....struggled. They struggled through the remainder of the episode to "get to know" and to trust one another.It seemed extremely difficult for them to grow their relationship past a surface, physical based level. In addition, it led them to disagreeably argue about the depth of their relationship. There was confusion about if the "connection" they seemed to have in bed was REAL.
The other couples, on the other hand vowed to take things slow and develop a true emotional connection seemed to have a much deeper attraction towards one another. They had every right to go ahead and have sex with their mate, but instead decided to WAIT! They wanted a more solid foundation before entering into such a physical relationship with one another. One couple even went on to say that they WERE physically attracted to each another, but decided to wait because they wanted it to mean more. And it showed obviously, at least through the end of last night's episode, that the smartest thing to do concerning entering a SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP with another person is to WAIT!!
Will the WAITING couples last? Will the eager couple end in divorce? Who knows? We'll have to keep watching. But at least for one night, it seemed to prove beneficial to pump the brakes when it comes to jumping into bed with someone else. Move to soon, and you rob the relationship of its true potential!
WAITING WITH EXCITEMENT!
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